Make sure your man feels loved with these 50 easy ways to show your husband that you love him! These creative ways to show love are based on “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman, and they’re a great way to let your husband know that you think he’s awesome!
If you haven’t been living under a rock for the last decade, then chances are you’ve heard about a little book called The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman.
But just in case you are an under-rock dweller, then The Five Love Languages is a wildly popular relationship book about the different ways that make an individual feel the most loved.
Gary Chapman offers five main languages of love and suggestions for how to use your partner’s language to improve your relationship.
If this is all news to you, then you can head here to take The 5 Love Languages quiz for FREE! Then, come back for some fun and unique ways to show your husband that you love him based on his love language.
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I’m not shy about telling people how amazingly happy I am in my marriage, or dishing out unsolicited marriage advice. In a culture of divorce and fake “relationship goals” on social media, my husband and I agree that we are so blessed to have a rock solid partnership. We truly love each other, and we are best friends.
But, any good marriage also requires work.
I’m not talking about the ugly, we’ve-got-to-work-through-this-stuff type of work, though that type of commitment is important, too, when life throws you a curveball. I’m talking about the “work” that still needs to be done when times are good.
It’s important to put in the “work” of making sure that your spouse feels loved. Not just saying “I love you” and kissing each other goodnight. But really putting in the extra effort to keep your bond and your marriage strong.
And it’s important to know your spouse’s love language so that your efforts are effective.
So, after you’ve had your husband take the Five Love Languages quiz, (or you’ve read the book), steal some of these fun and unique ways to show your husband you love him.
And be sure to check out Nice Things to Do For Your Husband, for a printable 30 Day Challenge!
Words of Affirmation –
What it is? Verbal affirmations. Expression of love through uplifting, encouraging, reassuring words.
Ways to show your husband that you love him:
1.Write him a thoughtful love letter or card and mail it to your house.
2. Compliment him out of the blue.
3. Leave fun and flirty love notes in random spots like on his steering wheel or in his gym bag.
4. Brag about how great he is to your friends, in front of him. I’m not shy about telling people that my husband is a “triple threat” because he cooks, cleans, and does laundry. He’s a catch, and I know that he feels appreciated when I tell others how great he is.
5. Tell him how appreciative you are of all that he does for your family. If your husband is the main “breadwinner”, then he works hard to provide for you. Let him know that his efforts aren’t taken for granted.
6. Say “I love you”.
7. Make an easy DIY dry erase love note memo board and use it to leave notes for your spouse. Just take a tabletop picture frame and put a pretty piece of scrapbook paper inside. Then, use a dry erase marker to write on the glass “I love you because…”.
8. Leave a small note in his lunchbox every day of the month with a new quality that you love about him. You can go HERE for some of the cute reasons why I love my husband, and get some tips to write your own list!
9. DM him! Let him know how much you love him through direct messages on his social media.
10. Send him one of these 31 Awesome Text Messages to Send Your Husband!
11. Call him and when he answers, start singing your wedding song/love song to him. My Boogie husband and I do this quite often… even though both of our singing voices sound like dying cats. The completely tone-deaf renditions of “Have I Told You Lately that I Love You” make it that more meaningful. 🙂
Acts of Service –
What it is? Actions to help make your partner’s life easier.
*Side Note – During our pre-marriage counseling, our pastor also stressed the importance of acts of service in maintaining a healthy marriage. Even if your spouse’s love language is NOT acts of service, you should still try to do whatever you can to make each other’s lives easier.
Less stress in your life = Less stress in your marriage.
Amy – The Savvy Sparrow
I talk more about this in my post, 10 of the Best Marriage Tips Ever!. Check it out!
Ways to show your husband that you love him:
12. Wash his car.
13. Make him breakfast in bed. Or a sexy dessert like this Easy Chocolate Fondue.
14. Mow the yard for him.
15. Offer to help him complete a task for his job.
16. If he has a household chore that he really hates doing, offer to split the work with him (i.e. – alternate taking out the trash).
17. Cook his favorite fancy dinner and serve it to him by candlelight.
18. Order his favorite takeout and have his favorite ice cold beverages waiting for him on game day.
19. Do something that you know is important to him, even if it isn’t important to you. For example, Christmas is right around the corner and my husband takes “deck the halls” seriously. He LOVES to have a perfectly (and thoroughly) decorated house for the holidays. I would be fine with just a tree. But, since I know that it’s important to him, I put in the extra effort to decorate the mantle, hearth, front door, dining table, coffee table, kitchen (attic – okay, maybe not, but you get the idea!).
20. At the risk of sounding antiquated… Make his dinner plate. No, not just make his dinner. Actually make his plate and bring it to him. My Mom has done this for my Dad ever since they got married 37 years ago.
21. Throw his towel in the dryer for him before he gets in the shower so that he has a nice warm towel to dry off with. My husband does this for me every now and then, and I LOVE it!
Receiving Gifts –
What it is? Pretty self-explanatory. If this is your spouse’s love language, then he feels most loved when you give him a gift.
Ways to show your husband that you love him:
22. Buying that shirt/watch/hat that he’s been wanting and surprise him with it, just because.
23. Gift him an experience, like a round of golf or an hour at the gun range.
24. Order him a subscription box so that he gets a fun gift in the mail every month. For example, if he loves crazy socks, try Sock Fancy. Sports fan? Try Fanchest.
25. Give him a sentimental gift – like framed memorabilia from a milestone date that you shared together (first date, wedding day, anniversary) or a photo album filled with all of the concert/movie tickets that you saw together.
26. Gift him a coupon book of Honey-Do coupons filled with jobs that you can do for him (wash car, breakfast in bed).
27. Have your kids make him a homemade gift or card.
28. Have a replica made of the top tier of your wedding cake. This makes an awesome anniversary gift, too! Especially if you include his pet name. 🙂
29. Give him a naughty gift to use in the bedroom.
30. Bring his favorite snack home from the grocery store.
31. Give him small gifts on important dates like the anniversary of your first date or your first kiss.
32. Give him a completely off the wall gift to make him laugh. Go here for some hilarious gifts for men!
For even more gift ideas for your husband, check out my huge list of Creative Anniversary Gift Ideas for Him!
Quality Time –
What it is? Giving your undivided attention. Spending time with your spouse free from distractions.
Ways to show your husband that you love him:
33. Shower together. Maybe a little TMI – but my husband and I shower together every night, and I highly recommend it to improve your marriage. Why? Because you can’t watch TV or take your phone with you in the shower, so it’s truly distraction-free quality time. (Read more of my marriage tips here!)
34. Have no-phones dinners. Put your phones out of reach and turn off the ringers during dinner time so that you’re not tempted by it.
35. Go to the gym together.
36. Meet him for lunch at work with an impromptu picnic.
37. Sit with him while he watches a football/basketball/golf game on TV. This is especially meaningful if you despise sports like I do. 🙂
38. Schedule weekly, biweekly, or monthly dates. Make time alone together a priority. My husband and I have a standing lunch date every Friday, and we really enjoy spending that time together each week while the kids are at school.
39. Plan a fun outing for the two of you. Do something in your city that you’ve never done before, like a Food Tour or a city scavenger hunt.
40. Pack a kickball or a frisbee and head to the park.
41. Take a walk around the neighborhood together.
42. Play a board game together, with the TV off.
43. Try one of these 16 Stay at Home Date Ideas on a Budget, because date night doesn’t always have to cost a bunch of money.
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Physical Touch –
What it is? Touching. Plain and simple.
Ways to show your husband that you love him:
44. Give him a back/foot rub.
45. Snuggle him in bed. My husband like to complain about my cold feet, but I know he secretly loves it!
46. Go see a movie, sit in the back row, and make out like you’re still in high school. 🙂
47. Lay your head on his shoulder while you’re sitting on the couch watching TV.
48. Rub lotion on his hands and give him a mini manicure.
49. Rest your hand on his leg while he’s driving.
50. “Accidentally” brush up against him. Wink wink.
51. Dance with him in the middle of the living room for no reason.
52. Hold hands while you’re walking around the grocery store or running other errands.
53. And, of course, there are a gazillion other ways to show him love through physical touch… all of which I won’t mention here to avoid my parents the embarrassment of reading 50 Shades-style advice written by their daughter. You’re welcome, Mom.
And there you have it! Fun and creative ways to show your husband love based on his specific love language. What are some of your favorite ways to show your husband that you love him? I’d love it if you left me a comment below… maybe some words of affirmation! 🙂
And be sure to check out some of these other posts to help you keep a healthy marriage:
Comments & Reviews
Ade T says
So good! Thx ❤️
Amy says
Thanks so much! Glad you like the ideas. 🙂
Patricia says
So I love him sooo much but I feel like everything is not where it should be in my relationship how can I fix it it is not broken but I feel we need more
Amy says
Hi Patricia! I think it’s really important to be intentional about spending time together (without the TV on or other distractions). Life can get busy and sometimes it feels like you’re just going through the motions in your marriage, and you may be missing the excitement. Maybe too much information, but my husband and I take a shower together every single night… there’s no kids running in and you can’t take your cell phones in the shower so it is really great uninterrupted quality time (we’ve been doing that for over 5 years and in that time we’ve probably missed less than 5 nights). And you don’t always have to spend a bunch of money to go out on a date… maybe take a walk around your neighborhood together and just talk, or try out a new recipe together. I also recommend that you read this blog post about what to do if you feel like your marriage is getting boring: https://thesavvysparrow.com/boring-marriage/ Like I say in that post, “A boring marriage is not a broken marriage”, and you already said that your marriage is not broken, so that’s good! You can also try to incorporate one new thing each week into your schedule, something that you normally wouldn’t do, to help bring back some excitement. Maybe try a new restaurant that you’ve never been to before this week and then leave him a sweet surprise gift in his car next week, etc. Hope that helps! 🙂
Jeff says
Amy,
I have been married to my High school sweetheart since 2/1/1986. The happiest moments in my life have been when my wifes thought process and efforts were focused on the topics and actions you mention. The simple WANT TO is what makes a difference. Just wish there was a way to make it so that mindset and desire to want to n think of them was routine not far and in between.
Amy says
Yes Jeff, that’s a great point! We should try to make it the norm to do nice things for our spouses, rather than having the gestures be really infrequent. When my husband and I did premarital counseling years ago, we were told that if husband and wife are both always thinking about how they can make the other person’s life easier and better, that your marriage will go far. And that has held true for us. Thanks so much for your comment! 🙂
Marilyn says
Leaving a note in my husband’s lunchbox made his day! This is a great list.
Amy says
Thanks so much Marilyn! Yes, a lunchbox note is a super easy and cheap way to show your husband that you love him and you’re thinking about him.
Sarah says
Soooo, Mrs. Cleaver but a whore in the bedroom. Got it. I’ve had a successful marriage and I promise you don’t have to praise and serve a man to achieve it. He is a human with stronger mind than to respond like a dog. Marriage is about mutual love and respect not being a person’s doormat. You take your strengths and the things you did to fall in love in the first place and do that.
Amy says
Hi Sarah, I’m definitely not my husband’s “doormat”, but I do believe in making a conscious effort to do things that show love. Since my readers are mostly women, this post is written to wives, but of course it’s important that it’s a 2-way street, and husbands should do these same things to show their wives love as well. And if the 2 suggestions (out of 53) that are related to sexual intimacy offended you, then I’m sorry. The “50 Shades” reference at the end of the post is just my writing style, in which I try to interject a little humor. Thanks for the honest feedback! 🙂
Fiona says
Some of these things maybe, but not all of them. Take what you want from it. I know both my husband an I would feel suffocated trying to follow all of these. Neither of us are very needy really beyond what we have already.
Amy says
Hi Fiona! Yup, you know what works best for your own relationship. 🙂 I’m definitely not saying to fit all of these ideas into one month, but once a week or a few times a month, I think it’s good to try something fresh to show your husband how much you appreciate him. Thanks for your comment! 🙂
Jill says
Unsolicited advice? I really hope not!
Marci Strong says
This is a fantastic list! I have been looking for something just like this and I am so glad I came upon your site! Is this available in a PDF form? It would be so great to be able to print it out. 🙂 Thank you!!
Amy says
Thanks so much for your comment, Marci! I’m glad you enjoyed the list! It is not currently available as a PDF, but I will definitely work on creating one. I’ll send it to your email (and make it available in the Freebies section for my newsletter subscribers) when it’s done. Thanks for the great idea! 🙂